Making the decision to move a loved one—especially your mom—into assisted living is never easy. It often comes with a mix of emotions: relief that she’ll have the care and support she needs, guilt for not being able to do it all yourself, and anxiety about how she’ll adjust to her new surroundings. One of the most meaningful steps you can take to ease that transition is helping her get settled into her new room.

Here’s how to make the move-in process smoother and more comforting—for both of you.

This is one of the most important things you can do. Assisted living rooms can feel generic at first, but turning her new space into a home will make a huge difference. Bring familiar items like:

• Her favorite chair or throw blanket
• Framed family photos
• A familiar bedspread or pillow
• Small mementos and keepsakes

Try to replicate elements from her previous home if possible. The goal is to make the room feel safe, comforting, and uniquely hers.

It’s tempting to try and bring everything, but keep in mind that space is limited. Be selective. Choose items that bring comfort and function without clutter. Assisted living staff will help keep the room clean and organized, so simpler is better.

Before move-in day, ask the community for a floor plan and recommended packing list to make sure furniture and decor will fit comfortably.

The move-in day sets the tone. If possible, arrive earlier in the day when your mom is more likely to feel energized. Keep the atmosphere calm and upbeat. Let her direct the process as much as possible—giving her a sense of control goes a long way.

If family or close friends can come along, it may help ease the emotional weight. But avoid overwhelming her with too many people or too many goodbyes.

Once the room is set up, take time to walk around with her. Introduce her to staff, point out the dining room, activity spaces, and any areas you know she’ll enjoy (like a garden or library). If you can, help her attend her first meal or activity—meeting neighbors and staff can be much less intimidating with a familiar face by her side.

Even if the move is the right decision, it’s a big life change. Expect an adjustment period. She may feel lonely or unsure at first—that’s normal. Stay connected through regular visits, phone calls, or video chats. Encourage her to get involved in community activities, but also let her move at her own pace.

The caregivers and staff are there to help her succeed in her new home. Share helpful information with them: her preferences, routines, hobbies, and health concerns. The more they know, the better they can support her day-to-day comfort and well-being.

Helping your mom settle into her assisted living room isn’t just about arranging furniture—it’s about creating a new chapter that still feels connected to who she is and what she loves. With thoughtful planning and emotional support, her new room can become a place of safety, dignity, and comfort. And that’s something every mom deserves.